My wife forwarded me this article today and I think you need to read it.
No seriously, the rest of this won't make sense until you do.
Question #1 How can preaching be improved to attract men to church?
Murrow: Make it shorter.
This past Sunday, Pastor Russ preached 35 minutes of thick theology and I could give you a detailed outline of what he preached. Not so most weeks, because it usually looses me.
Question #2 Is there anything in the structure and organization of the service that could be improved to appeal to men?
Men like a service that is vertical-focused, focused more on God. If your worship service reflects "God is my buddy," then you're going to attract more women.
Agreed but not for those reasons. Our gatherings shouldn't be vertically focused because It'll attract more men, but because God is worth glorifying in a direct way. Our God is personal, but he's also Majestic and Almighty. Ultimately our gatherings need to be balanced between the two because our God is both.
Question #3 How does church music affect men?
We used to have hymns, which were pretty well-suited to the masculine heart; they talked about battle and blood and victory. Today we have praise and worship choruses, which I call "Jesus is my boyfriend music." We use words that no man would dare say to another, and yet we ask men every week to express their love to God using these very romantic words.
I've been trying to write songs that are simple. Simple words, simple chords, easy to sing. But I just can't do it. Every time I write something simple, I step back and think "This is missing something, the idea is just not complete" or "I can't sing this, it's too weak". So yeah I agree with this one too. I do think those other songs have a place, I just think we need to strive for balance between the two, and we've been over saturated with the one, so eventually the pendulum will swing the other way, we just have to wait for it.
I find myself in a strange situation, I have strong opinions and (I think) some good ideas to help the situation, but I have little power to change anything. There's no real forum at our church for this kind of thing, but I know our worship Pastor reads my blog, so maybe we can start some kind of dialogue. Could be that I'm the only one who thinks along these lines and I'm a crack-pot.